Here it is 2007 and to this day I don't understand why some people try to be someone they are not just so others will like/accept them!

Why some people do this?..... Insecurity

I have always been myself. I will NEVER pretend to be someone that I'm not! If someone doesn't like me... too bad. I could give a damn. I don't care what others think. Who are they to say something anyway? No one is perfect! Why do I need to impress them?I also can't stand people who fake being themselves in order to get friends... But they do that because either they are insecure or because they are afraid that their real self isn't good enough. That may sound weird but their past experiences may have been harsh for them and they see the world as something cruel and who wont accept them for who they truly are... so in order to get along in this reality, they pretend to be something they're not. This is sad because in doing this they may lose their true self and in losing that.. Well it's worse than anything because that's what makes up the real you.I notice it at TF parties all the time. Either they have they're head so stuck up there ass they can taste there breakfast, or they think they're better than the other person. Or simply they're shy. Me being at times the cocky ass that I am, I have NO problem saying hello, then seeing what they're inital reaction would be. Sometimes they'll just turn there heads as if I don't exist. It's cool though. It sucks to be them. Also..

You know how some people tend to have "walls" set up between other people because they believe that some parts of themselves should still remain a secret... And this wall is only broken when they find someone whom they can really trust... Well I think that fake people are also like that the only difference is... that "wall" is harder to break down because it is not the real one... I feel sorry for those people who are fake... because they seem to be missing out in the joys of life. When they go home and they're all alone in their room... It's hard for them and I guess they also want to be able to act themselves but now that it's become a habit for them... It would be hard to shake off...

for me?Instead of pushing them away, I just give em the benifit of the doubt....Meh, Life........

cocoa..... your just experiencing the entire thailandfriends community ....good and bad

its funny you mentioned about your experience at those parties ..... as i have heard and read the same thing from various people on this site..... things that make you go hmmmm

maybe your not part of the *in* crowd ...... cause we all know that never disappears in life

Yes, there are fakers here. And we pretty much know who they are. One of them, of whom I had a very bad impression from his journal writings, turned out to be a genuinely nice person in real. Sometimes we judge before we really know that person, and I admit that I am sometimes guilty of that.

Well I totally agree with you on the fact that it's very nice and probably better to be just yourself. Sometimes people set up walls around them, for protection purposes because they don't wanna get hurt, or they are afraid what the others will think. It's very true. I don't mind to be myself as well, and I am sure some will like that and some won't. I don't mind if others set up those walls. Who am I to judge that? I pick my own friends.

FAKERS ??? Is this a TF thing or can we find such people every where thru all walks of life.

Who are we. We are the TOTAL of ALL our experiences in life..............agreed

Some of us have had a wonderful life. the usual ups and downs fo course

Some of us have had a hard life. or have suffered greatly in life.

So have built walls to protect them selves. Its natural, but if you become friends

You will understand, Same for everyone. get to know the person understand them

Everyone is different, but there is good im MOST. Is a person with a wall around them

A BAD person ? I know a few and none of them seem bad to me. Take you time get to know them

most times they are very good people. The only BAD people in my book are those who set

out to destroy or abuse others for the sake of it. We have only one of those on TF at the moment

I understand where you are coming from when you say Hi and someone takes on look and turns their back

Screw em, They have just told you they are shallow, to save you the time of finding out for your self

Thank them and move on :-)

Yep I agree with Gav, you get them from school days to right now,up starts as we call them,then there is the socialites that stick to their upper class mates.

Problem is these people as you say realise at tmes where their head is and then want friendship from the normally minded people of average abilities.

Well it does take all types of people to make a world and I'm not perfect and so are no body else and characters of people will always be a part of life and you won't change them.

Let those who want to taste their breakfast from their ass do so,with pleasure.

Don't stop them because they are the ones that others don't want or need for friends.

Interesting...

I've never been to a TF party. So my impression of most TF people (except for a few I did meet) is limited to message exchange and occasional chat sessions. I do think there probably is some fakers on TF. Another issue is that asians in general tend to avoid confrontation. For most asian culture it is very important not to loose face in public, or not to do something that would make you noticed or stand out. This is why, sometime, instead of telling something bad in your face they will do it behind your back.

Shy people are another issue. I know because I'm on of those. Many times, people got a bad impression of me on first sight. They think I'm snob because I only talk to my friends and very little to outsiders. However, when they get to know me they realize I'm a totally different person and start liking me = that's what being shy is all about.

I've been to a TF's party just the 1st, and I thought you had your ass up the wall? All I knew that you was from Boston, and only because of tha.I tried to be friendly towards you, however you were too busy talking away with the other so-called fakers? Just because we were both brought up in Boston really doesn't mean anything, because I didn't think you was friendly at all......yes, no one has to like you, and you don't have to give a **** either, but that's the way I saw you..........also at Sizzler's too! So what is a faker all about?

Not all people are comfortable being in social situation; it doesn't mean that they don't have other good qualities. I think it's kinda childish to even define someone "fake" or "non-fake". It's like making yourself feel better by pointing out others' lack of social skills or strong personality. Lack of social skills or strong personality is not a crime. Give people a chance.

For me, I will just accept the difference and try not to define anyone by a single word. There are more interesting topics to talk about. =)

So true............

If you say hello to someone and they do not say hello back it is not "your" problem it is "their" problem, for whatever reason they are shy or has poor social interaction skills, the best thing you can do is not to take it "personally", and just let it ride!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

well, what can i say... this is life.........just flow along with things that happend at time.xx

Wowow Nice Journal..

and i think its true,,, many Faker here... LOL...

This is the problem of TODAY that i find annoying and the media is not doing much to help. Instead, the media TELLS people how they should look, how they should speak, how they SHOULD be. People having NO self-esteem and having to change themself to 'what the book says' just to feel they are a part of the community. It's WE who ruin each other and we are all responsible if you really think about it properly.

I'll be back - but i have to go work for now.

OoO:

Can I marry you for your mind? Lol

What if I got multiple personalities? LOL

CocoaBrotha: I wouldn't worry about an experience like this at a TF event. This kind of thing happens pretty much everywhere you go. I've been to a number of TF "events" and found it to have people who were genuinely nice as well as your typical "clique-ish" types. I've never really enjoyed showing up at TF "events" that people I didn't know set up. For me, typically, I found myself banding together with other people who were laughing at how sad some of the "cliques" were. Then again, I can't say that TF "events" are any different from any other place in society. The best nights out for me in Bangkok are going with a few mates and meeting a load of new people. Hard to do with some of the "TF standbys".