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My friend's Super Ex-BF

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One of my friend just break up with her ex whom she lived with at a guy's house along with his family for a few years. Before break up with him, she quit her old job because she got another job which is better in any cost. At first a guy was very gentle since day one she met him that's why she've gone too far. But he turned to be very nasty after she moved out, he kept calling her and asked to meet, spied on her where she live, where is her office.  One day, he asked her to meet, my friend said that if she denied then he won't stop nagging her... at the end she gone out for a dinner with him and then he took her home and he raped her without using condom twice (bastard!!!!).... Perhaps want to get her pregnant then another female friend of her called  to ask if she ok.. but the guy answered the call so her friend knew that there was something wrong so her friend asked what he did with her friend etc.. somehow that super ex bf got angry, grabbed a gun and drove to that girl's place (a friend of my friend). My friend was all frighten that he will do something crazy with her friend but finally she managed to get him calm down and leave her and her friend alone. My friend took morning after pills in the next day and she was bleeding for 2 weeks non-stop so we went to see doctor, the pill got her hormone f**ked up but now it's already stopped. I was with her at the hospital, that crazy guy kept calling her asking where she was he will pick her up... I answered the call and said nicely that "Can I have her go to do an errand with me? Don't worry I will send her home"  he said it's the same **** that been using all the time... so I pissed off and said if you think we always lie why you call?!? He asked me why I said that so I asked back, you just said Im a liar, so what do you expect me to say huh?!! I pretended like I didn't lie but I did actually, and it worked, he said sorry and stopped calling. A few days later I spoke to my friend on phone, she told me that he gone crazy and said he got bored of being nice to her when she doesnt give a **** at all. He said he hate her now and he will do anything to destroy her, get her fired etc. I told my friend to go to report police but we were not sure if the police will take it serious or just laugh at us. I have seen on the news many time that some ppl was killed from similar situation like this... who knows how crazy he could be? My friend said she tried every ways, talked to him nicely, told him to leave her alone and told him she never love him etc but being nice or being nasty made not much differrent since he never stop stalking her. I've never been in situation like this. Is there any way to stop this **** if the guy doesn't stop it himself? My friend live alone in an apartment. I kinda worry about her but no idea what to do apart from hoping he will learn that he has to let her go. Today I met my friend and asked what's going on? she said she went to have dinner with him yesterday (God!!!) I was "huh? why you still go with him??" She said he said sorry and he didnt meant to do anything like he said and as always she said that it seems to be better if she try to be nice with him...... Is this really the only choice to deal with people like this? Now I can just hope that my friend will be safe and he will not do anything crazier. It's the problem that we can't solve ourselves... Such a pain! But if I was her, I might kill him since the day he took me home and tried to have sex with me... I'm not that cool like my friend and I go anywhere with one stuff that kinda sharp(Apart from my brain hehe~).  
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One of my friend just break up with her ex whom she lived with at a guy's house along with his family for a few years. Before break up with him, she quit her old job because she got another job which is better in any cost. At first a guy was very gentle since day one she met him that's why she've gone too far. But he turned to be very nasty after she moved out, he kept calling her and asked to meet, spied on her where she live, where is her office.  One day, he asked her to meet, my friend said that if she denied then he won't stop nagging her... at the end she gone out for a dinner with him and then he took her home and he raped her without using condom twice (bastard!!!!).... Perhaps want to get her pregnant then another female friend of her called  to ask if she ok.. but the guy answered the call so her friend knew that there was something wrong so her friend asked what he did with her friend etc.. somehow that super ex bf got angry, grabbed a gun and drove to that girl's place (a friend of my friend). My friend was all frighten that he will do something crazy with her friend but finally she managed to get him calm down and leave her and her friend alone. My friend took morning after pills in the next day and she was bleeding for 2 weeks non-stop so we went to see doctor, the pill got her hormone f**ked up but now it's already stopped. I was with her at the hospital, that crazy guy kept calling her asking where she was he will pick her up... I answered the call and said nicely that "Can I have her go to do an errand with me? Don't worry I will send her home"  he said it's the same **** that been using all the time... so I pissed off and said if you think we always lie why you call?!? He asked me why I said that so I asked back, you just said Im a liar, so what do you expect me to say huh?!! I pretended like I didn't lie but I did actually, and it worked, he said sorry and stopped calling. A few days later I spoke to my friend on phone, she told me that he gone crazy and said he got bored of being nice to her when she doesnt give a **** at all. He said he hate her now and he will do anything to destroy her, get her fired etc. I told my friend to go to report police but we were not sure if the police will take it serious or just laugh at us. I have seen on the news many time that some ppl was killed from similar situation like this... who knows how crazy he could be? My friend said she tried every ways, talked to him nicely, told him to leave her alone and told him she never love him etc but being nice or being nasty made not much differrent since he never stop stalking her. I've never been in situation like this. Is there any way to stop this **** if the guy doesn't stop it himself? My friend live alone in an apartment. I kinda worry about her but no idea what to do apart from hoping he will learn that he has to let her go. Today I met my friend and asked what's going on? she said she went to have dinner with him yesterday (God!!!) I was "huh? why you still go with him??" She said he said sorry and he didnt meant to do anything like he said and as always she said that it seems to be better if she try to be nice with him...... Is this really the only choice to deal with people like this? Now I can just hope that my friend will be safe and he will not do anything crazier. It's the problem that we can't solve ourselves... Such a pain! But if I was her, I might kill him since the day he took me home and tried to have sex with me... I'm not that cool like my friend and I go anywhere with one stuff that kinda sharp(Apart from my brain hehe~).  
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sunsnow

POLICE for gods sake. for f*cks sake that is so messed up. She should still report it, the minute she went to doctor for bleeding it should have come up. And get a grip of yourself woman! Why the hell you are not her friend and beg her to report the c*ck sucker to police? Are u her friend or not? geesus that is so sick, sick sick sick! you have to stop letting her to talk to him, no contact, no "trying to be talking to him nicely" or anything, no trying to "ask him to leave her alone". :-/

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sunsnow

Still cant believe what u are writing...I can totally understand that she is not acting rationally in this situation, "oh he is nicer if you are nice to him too, I talk to him nicely, he is sorry"...If there has been such a rape, guns waving and everything, for gosh...wake up, you who are in better condition to help her to help herself! F*ck

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makamkaw

I just understand for this case i know how she feel.

Somebody used to be love when everything end seem gonna be bad ... too bad too rude

f uck off man ...

so sometime hard to do bad coz we think about how it's nice our relation b4 , but finally

bad to me bad back to you ..... hmmmm.

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PlaiFar

i agree to get police involved. you don't know, it may not be just ur friend who's going to get hurt in this situation but you and others around her. As you can see she is weak and scared, she is not in a condition to decide or think what she is going to do next. Like sunsnow said, you are there for her...get her out to report this guy.

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Kayle

what are his parents doing? Do they know what is going on between your friend and her ex?

Maybe your friend can ask for their support on calming their son down.

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babyoiy

Sunsnow : Each people have their own ways to deal with their life.. I told her to go to report police but I don't know if they will take thing serious... so I'm trying to find someone that have power to give the priority to this case. I'm her friend, otherwise I won't think about this. You should try to be nicer when giving other a suggest. Even your suggest is good but you saying like I'm stupid and not really care about her.... I hate you for saying that, do you ever deal with Thai police?

Still cant believe what u are writing... << that's the worst one. It made me feel like I'm the worst and stupid friend.

Makamkaw : No, she doesn't care about that but she ... ermmm .... I find it annoying too that she still let this happen.. I mean why she still go out with him... She kept saying that it wont get thing better if I say no... u know she's a calm and cool one... too calm... she said when he crazy she has to stay calm if she gone crazy too then nothing will be better.... I dont know when it gonna end if he still not let this end.

Plaifar : I wish police will take thing serious if we go to report them... I tried to contact k.Pavina I think she will be able to help.. And the one reason that my friend always worry about is she doesnt want him to mess up with her friend, unfortunately he know where one of her friend live and work.

Kayle : You know, his parents wont blame their son for this but they will blame my friend to make him being like this.... I rarely see that the parents will blame their own kids first but other... I dont understand either why my friend can't get any help from them when he took her home...

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babyoiy

Im not happy with this, but thing wont be ended easily, even report the police and so what? will they send someone guarding her? No! Will he still be able to stalk her? Yes! I think she should move to up-country and change telephone number etc.. but she knows that if she just escape like that one whom will be in trouble is her friend... So she just cant do it that way... Im trying to sort it out.. I dont want to see my friend's pic on the newspaper... I dont really understand my friend since she can stayed with him for a few years when she doesnt love him at all... if she can do that then she will still go out with him if he keep begging her. She shouldn't have gone with him since day one... It's her fault too... I never agree with her but our personality are different... and it's right if both two sides are all crazy then nothing will be better.. I agreed with her for this but again who know what he can do... argghhhhh I wish I can kill him and no quilty....

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sunsnow

Many women stay in abusive relationships. So has your friend been if what you tell is accurate, and the idea is coming thru in right way. I am not familiar with the deep psychological reasons why this very unfortunate, common thing is so universal...Something in the brain chemistry I guess, our mind is pretty tricky...And unfortunately these ppl do not listen to even their best friends who can see what happens. Not before something really bad happens...This is not to make guilty those who stay in those relationships, but just something very deep inside one's mind going what looks to outsiders very abnormal...

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UGLYBETTY

hey i have been in this **** before, tell her to change her phone number and i understand how much she wanted to forgive him, and love him but he will never changed trust me girl...wish all the bestxx

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afook06

Police really can't do anything unless, you have proof of rape,etc.......and your friend is still seeing her ex, which is not good either........many stories like this and the victim ends up getting killed/murdered by her ex-lover......she should just pack up and leave him cold........otherwise, you're always worried what might happen later on.......

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Bruce551

Try to find NGO Womens support group and ask about "Peace Bond" legal document filed against her ex-boyfriend.

Once a Peace Bond is filed with the court, he can be arrested and taken to court if brothers her again.

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babyoiy

I asked her to record if he call her and saying like he will do everything to destroy her again but it turned to be he dont do that (for now).

I think about what Bruce said, we need to contact someone who willing to help about thiskind of situation specially not Police..

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