seems many TFers talk about sex in forums and JN ....I just want to share some ideas from what i read

If you want to make the most of your sex life, these tips are a good way to start.

As long as you're talking together and listening to each other, you're well on the way to a healthy sex life. However, even the most contented lovers can have fun trying new things, so here are some ideas.

1. Build anticipation

Agree on a period of time, say one week, when you won?t have orgasms or penetrative sex. At first, allow no more than kissing and holding each other, then gradually move on to touching and stroking each other, masturbation, oral sex, whatever feels right for you, but avoid orgasm. At the end of the week, allow yourselves the pleasure of orgasm, through any kind of sex you like. This week will heighten your senses to all the other wonderful feelings you can share when you?re having sex.

2. Massage

This can?t be said often enough: massage can help you have incredibly sensual sex. As part of foreplay it can be a great way to start things off slowly, relaxing into the feel of each other?s skin as your arousal becomes more intense.

But a simple massage that doesn?t lead to sex can also work wonders for your sex life. A non-sexual massage will help you familiarise (or re-familiarise) yourself with your partner?s body, reduce stress and reaffirm the intimacy between you. If you don?t necessarily want a massage to lead to sex, talk about this with your partner so you can avoid any misunderstandings.

3. The senses

Sex is about sensuality, and good sex can embrace all the senses, not just touch. Scented oil for a massage, music to lose yourself in and candles for soft lighting can all be erotic, as well as listening to your partner?s breathing and the sounds they make. Taste each other as you kiss, and try mixing food and sex. Feed each other something delicious and juicy, such as strawberries.

4. Whisper

Whether it?s sweet nothings or your sexy intentions, whispering things to your partner (or having things whispered to you) can add an extra thrill. It doesn?t just have to be during foreplay or sex. A sexy phone call can mean you?re both looking forward to the event for hours or days.

This works with texts and emails too, but make sure you send them to the right person, and remember that your employer has the right to access your work email.

5. Masturbation

Masturbation, by yourself or with your partner, can be a bonus for your sex life. Exploring your own body and sexual responses means you can share this knowledge with your partner. Masturbating your partner can help you learn more about what turns them on. It can also be a useful option if one of you doesn?t feel up to full penetrative sex or if you have differing levels of desire. Talk about it with your partner. Perhaps masturbation is a way of dealing with this.

6. Sex toys

If you and your partner both feel comfortable, using sex toys can be an arousing thing to do together. Many people use vibrators and more as an enjoyable part of their sex life. If you?ve never thought about using sex toys before, how do you feel about trying them? You can buy them online or in sex shops.

7. Read a book

There are many books full of exercises and ideas to help you achieve a fulfilling sex life, whatever your age, gender, sexual orientation or taste. If you?ve never thought about buying a book about sex, why not do it now? You might wish you?d done it years ago. See Useful links.

8. Share fantasies and desires

Everyone has unique fantasies, tastes and preferences when it comes to sex. From earlobes to ankles, hairline to hips, pirates to picnics, don?t be afraid to talk about them. If you and your partner know about each other?s special turn-ons, you can make the most of them.

9. Keep it clean

We?re talking about your general hygiene. You don?t have to keep yourself super-scrubbed: a certain amount of sweat is fine, as long as it isn?t overwhelming. Pheromones (chemicals your body produces) can play a big part in arousal, so don?t mask them with strong perfumes or soaps. But be respectful towards your partner and make sure you wash every day to prevent nasty smells and tastes.

10. Relax

Sex with a loving partner can be one of the most beautiful and intense experiences in life, and often the best sex happens when you?re not worrying about making it exciting or orgasmic. Relax with your partner and great sex may well come and find you.

http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Goodsex/Pages/Sextips.aspx

I'm a slow learner, any chance of a personal course of tuition???

PeterH61:haha

I haven't read all the tipps you reported, but an old saying (revisiting Aristotele) came to my mind:

who knows, do. Who doesn't know, teach.

Obviously it's reffered to the author of the article

riga71:for my tips is "bring something new to your partner everytime you do"....

can not believe i have heard marriage couple do the same thing in the same order for 20 years

Thai language, sex coach - what next? Nuclear physics guidelines?

all this advice from faycyber's years of personal experience, right?

friendlyCat : haha ,I wish they were.... sadly ....I have to wait until married .....now just on my research ....

maybe when I marry him I will put my own tips on pls wait .....

garfield: depend on what we (I and Russ) read .........haha

if you check my other journal "marry him" you will see that Russ can fix things ..fly helicopters...yes he just told me he once made a bomb in chem. lab. by accident.

Russ read this JN and said " just ask garfield to look you up on the Journal of Physics G: Nuclear and Particle Physics hehe not on TF for that "

Aha! Erudite couple. Good to have some shared interests other than each other. Wish I knew how to put smileys on here! Can u do lessons in basic HTML pls?

So Russ is a pilot? My god - hope he dopes not fire missiles and stuff!

garfield: no he is a computer engineer I dont mind about sex tips much .... as long as i can have something in my mouth ......well.... i mean food ......... thank god .... he can cook .......haha i like to eat ........

I like to teach thai as i have another degree in thai teaching but I am a computer lecturer in univ....maybe i can do HTML lessons sometimes.......

Goddamn! I am a cook too. Have to cook for you and Russ some time. I am the demon of the demitasse, the god of goujons, the king or karai, the prince of pad thai

garfield: those all my fav.

Then my happiness is complete.