as the matter of fact today i wanna write about Achilles Tendon (Achilles in "Troy" Brad Pitt) but i changed my mind cuz i have hot issue in here.

Before i begin this story, pls don't get me wrong. I don't have bad attitude with gay ppl. My buddy and my friends are gays. and i love them so much.

Anyway,let's begin the story.It's all about my coworker one day she came to me and asked me about her husband.

she > 1 do u think my husband is a gay?

me > Why u asked?

She > Cuz i know u know alot about gay and i read a book about when u know ur husband is gay

me > huh??

She > so what do u think?

Me > hrrrrr (speachless)

She > do u think he is?

Me > Tell the truth yes...

Well tell u the truth i know her and her husband for 7 years. First time that i met her husband, i could guess he was gay. The more i chat with him no matter on phone or in real. I can tell, he is gay. i knew that. but hey if u were me u gonna tell her? i don't think so. However, if she wanted to know, i did tell her.

Not many girls have been trained like me. 4 years in university. My gay friends told me all about gay. How to know that man is gay or not. Now i can look and scan. 80% right 10% not sure. 5% they won't tell u he is or not and 5% wrong

So i know all the time. but i'm not sure she know it and try to be ignore. They have there own child. hrrrrr. It's ok if he still a good father and good husband but he is not. He chat with others guys. Went out at night for party... My friend told me with tears was falling down....

What can i do, 1? How to bring him back??

Well, I don't know.. If he like the other girl is ok. atleast we r the same. but if he likes a man u can't bring back..No way!! nothing to fight. So pity..

I just said be strong, be patient. I know she can't live without him... For me it's so easy to say if i were u i will.. bla bla bla but i the real situation is not. Her dauther needs father, and she needs husband. and anything else. i said if didn't think about sex life much she can live with him like a friend.

She has daughter and dogs and house to take care.

I know not many gay intended to hurt a woman.They may have many reason to do it.

1. never know himself is gay

2. know but cant' accept that

3. trying to hide behide the mask by fool everybody. Hey look i have wife so i'm not gay!!

Is it good to destroy someone heart. Ruin woman future. That's bad!!

fool somebody for thier face in social that's really mean! Damn it!!

Yes it is devestating.....But on a lighter note......If your husband turns out to be Gay, he can teach you how to suck ****......

Will....Am I allowed to say ****....????

well cerberus> that's a good point na, lol teach me s--k d--k ummmm but i got A for that already, lol

F--kn'a you allways make's me laugh.

Cerebrus is definitly cool.

**** i'm still laughing now........................;

.....LOL.....Tan....Your soooooooooooo naughty.....I like that....He He

Interesting, do you have ?radar? for Bisexual people (orientation towards both sexes) too? Also a radar for effeminate (?Having qualities or characteristics more often associated with women than men.? ) heterosexuals?

There are too many maybes without knowing both sides of the relationship story(it's hard to know what his intention was). Hopefully your co-worker knows and can fathom if there is something to work and hope for.

Is this really about his sexuality or more about a loosely woven (or unraveling) marriage of hearts? (From the wife not getting enough love and caring from her husband. She was crying about him ?going out? away from her?)

When it comes to their marriage (and how they could be happy together) there could be hope still for them, looking on the positive side.

I wonder what advice I would give to a friend in that situation??

How to suggest them to weave their hearts happily together again in an emancipating way for both of them?. Inspire something strong to bring them together?. That?s a tough one?

PS.

Intention to ruin somebody?s heart sounds abhorrent whether it be intentional or incidental. For your co-workers? sake I would hope they can work something out.