Marla Posted September 29, 2011 Report Share Posted September 29, 2011 While it's great to show the person we love, we also need to show that we trust them, and the trust part of the deal sometimes seems the hardest. After all, unless he/she was pure as driven snow when you first got together, he's/she’s bound to have a history with some other girl/boy somewhere. Even if he/she is that pure, he/she still may come with other people's baggage. But when does it reach the point where it's uncool to keep holding onto the person? You may not even notice that you're living in each others' pockets, but if you are, it can be very unhealthy for your relationship. So has the green-eyed monster taken up permanent residence in your heart? I guess, we are possessive in a different level :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaunitz Posted September 29, 2011 Report Share Posted September 29, 2011 You are so right with your post! But for me, I think that I am not like this as I am working abroad and my wife is back home alone (which I pity and try to change as soon as possible). And I DO trust her, 100%. And I also know that she trusts me 100%. But this doesn't mean that it is easy. There is some jealousy creeping around and we both think that this is only natural, because without a certain portion of jealousy, a relationship never will be a real one because in the opinion of my wife (that I support 100%) a relationship without jealousy means that the partners don't care. As long as you don't think about the green-eyed monster as the burdens of the past but of the daily thinking, I can understand you. In this case, the green-eyed monster is lurking around, sometimes we have to fight it a bit but we know where we are going. If you see the green-eyed monster as a burden from the past - we are lucky! No baggage carried on into our relationship from either side! And this is something that I just realize (after 9 years of being together and more than 5 years of marriage) after reading your post! We talked about our "ex-es" but it never was a real topic between us. So thank you very much for posting this, it really added an extremely good dimension to my relationship with my beloved wife as before, I did not think about this part and again, after learning something new, I found out that my wife IS the best in the world! The past is no point for both of us. It has happened and it was good to a certain extent but it did not turn out to be long-lasting. This is one of the points why I love my wife so much. Gone is gone. Direct yourself to manage the present and face the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted September 30, 2011 Report Share Posted September 30, 2011 Marla said: While it's great to show the person we love, we also need to show that we trust them, and the trust part of the deal sometimes seems the hardest. After all, unless he/she was pure as driven snow when you first got together, he's/she’s bound to have a history with some other girl/boy somewhere. Even if he/she is that pure, he/she still may come with other people's baggage. But when does it reach the point where it's uncool to keep holding onto the person? You may not even notice that you're living in each others' pockets, but if you are, it can be very unhealthy for your relationship. So has the green-eyed monster taken up permanent residence in your heart? I guess, we are possessive in a different level :-) i think everybody has a certain level of jealousy/possessiveness .... i am fairly relaxed so long as i know/think i can trust my partner, but once that trust has gone (IMO) it's extremely difficult if not impossible to regain that trust once again !!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted September 30, 2011 Report Share Posted September 30, 2011 kaunitz said: The past is no point for both of us. It has happened and it was good to a certain extent but it did not turn out to be long-lasting. This is one of the points why I love my wife so much. Gone is gone. Direct yourself to manage the present and face the future. i'm going print this out for someone i know !!!! hahahahaha !!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teddy Posted September 30, 2011 Report Share Posted September 30, 2011 CiaranM said: i think everybody has a certain level of jealousy/possessiveness .... i am fairly relaxed so long as i know/think i can trust my partner, but once that trust has gone (IMO) it's extremely difficult if not impossible to regain that trust once again !!!!! You're talking so much bollocks right now tha........Actually I agree with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted September 30, 2011 Report Share Posted September 30, 2011 Teddy said: You're talking so much bollocks right now tha........Actually I agree with you. well if u want to be right and appear clever .... off course u will agree with me !!! hahahaha !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StevieJR Posted September 30, 2011 Report Share Posted September 30, 2011 CiaranM said: well if u want to be right and appear clever .... off course u will agree with me !!! hahahaha !! <---- will wait to see how fkn clever yous look when yer respective missezez respond to this post!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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