Japhrodisiac Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 I'm usually sarcastic and all, but another topic about exes has me thinking. What to do when you are feeling sad and alone, but dont really want to just go and meet someone else? That catch 22 when you are lonely but want to be alone. My ex and I have been apart a few months, but sometimes all I do is work, and then realize there is no balance of work/play. Any suggestions on how to deal with these feelings? My last somber post i swear lol. - J Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harleyguy Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 I find you are somewhat painting yourself in the corner, but this is perfectly normal and understandable in the circumstances. When we are sad, we often do not want to meet people we don't know, we either want to be left alone, or find comfort among the ones we know will welcome us in whatever shape we are. Talking with good friends about what made you sad may help, maybe not. You have to find a way to take your mind away from these thoughts, otherwise you will find yourself in a downward spiral. Get our mind focussed on something else, something you like of course ! I found that when I am stressed, or not feeling up to par, an intense gym session usually helps. Train, daily. Exercising also gives energy. You should not simply wait for the sadness to go away. You have to work on yourself, irrespective of how hard it can be. When you will be out of it, you'll not only be happy, but also proud of yourself. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SiamHotel Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 Japhrodisiac said: ... but dont really want to just go and meet someone else? I may be wrong but I sense somethin' still lingerig here... Harley's advices are gold, especially the ones 'bout close friends being the best therapy and accepting us in whatever shape/mood we are. Problem is that no matter how good things may look from the outside (the "you-got-everything-why-so-blue" situation..) when the heart is involved our minds can't help keep focusing on THAT image and thoughts that makes us feel miserable... So keep goin' out and keep up the good humour Japh, irony and laughter are great antidotes for [almost] everything in life. But unresolved relationships are a real pain in the neck...so I strongly wish you can sort things out soon WITH that special person. The sooner the better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carlinho Posted August 21, 2004 Report Share Posted August 21, 2004 there is sarcasm in here?... that's all the girls' fault "i feel so miserable without you, it's almost like having you here" (stephen bishop) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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