s1lv3rtwenty2 Posted December 6, 2004 Report Share Posted December 6, 2004 Is it possible? Can this happen? A friend of mine was very much in love. She felt a love for her bf stronger than anything in her heart. He was her first real serious bf. He was the first to make love to her. Their relationship lasted 6 years?until she caught him having sex with another girl from his work. That was 3 years ago. She has said that she can not love again. She has met and briefly dated a lot of very nice guys, but she always ends the relationships before they get serious because she has become too afraid to open her heart again. She has tried very hard to feel love again, but she just can?t make it happen. It saddens me greatly to see such a beautiful and wonderful girl to apparently be doomed to live the rest of her life never knowing the feeling of true love again. I?ve heard (know) that the losing the ?first love? can be very difficult and takes some time to get over. But doesn?t time heal all wounds? Isn?t 3 years long enough? Can a traumatic incident like this really close a woman?s heart to love FOREVER? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coopjt Posted December 6, 2004 Report Share Posted December 6, 2004 i agree with ghee. bad experiences can make anyone turn from love, even me :cry: heheheh im not crying though. maybe just take time to heal even if it is a long time. i hope your friend will be ok kaunitz 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OutOfOrder Posted December 6, 2004 Report Share Posted December 6, 2004 ... i know the feeling... yeah well yeah well ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aphrodite Posted December 10, 2004 Report Share Posted December 10, 2004 First of all I feel like you're talking about me here! This sounds like my own experience but anyway its only been 2 months not 3 years and i havent actually dated anyone tho i just cant OK lets not talk about *first love* but *true love* instead. personally I do have a strong passionate feeling for my you know who but something happened and its just like we cant be together just for now. as always im still waiting for him to come back to me. :roll: alright, i'd say that in her mind she still always and perhaps forever thinks that it could have been *true love*. shes probably still thinking what if she didnt catch him having sex with another girl thing would have been better and hes probably still with her and they would live happily ever after. u know when u actually found someone u really love and feel like damn hes/shes the one for me, its really really hard for you esp women forget about all wonderful feeling and speacial time u two have shared. everybody needs time i know that for sure. so ok her heart, as u say, is probably seal closed by now. but it would take times till she could get over it. it may take year but that depends on her. she gotta learn and find out herself that life goes on and there're still loadsa ppl out there caring for her so much. trust me no matter what u say to her like hey why cant u .. that why cant u .. this.. it wouldnt help unless she realizes that herself. I believe that everyone has a soulmate somewhere out there. Destiny would lead him/her to you. It might sound crazy but seriously its true. maybe u should buy her a DVD of a movie called "serendipity" kaunitz 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smartass Posted December 10, 2004 Report Share Posted December 10, 2004 The first guy and the relationship lasted 6 years. Thats a big deal. I think she has set herself a bar within. A wall that protects herself from getting hurt again.It takes the right person to break it. Probably she hasnt felt right with anybody yet. It takes time but you cannot really say when she will be freed from that and be able to let herself trust someone again. I think its not the worst case cos she has been giving herself a chance a bit, dating someone. At least she's not against it totally. I think its not easy to find someone you can really trust these days. Too many temptations out there and people are weak and seduced too easily. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aphrodite Posted December 10, 2004 Report Share Posted December 10, 2004 smartass said: I think its not easy to find someone you can really trust these days. Too many temptations out there and people are weak and seduced too easily. well thats a good point. love is built on trust. u really need a lot of trust in a relationship. once one cheated on another, would he/she be forgiven for that? well the answer could be yes and no, depends on each person really. in case that u have forgiven a person who is cheating on you, u still need to rebuild ur trust for that person again. so i guess the other person really need to work hard on how to gain back his/her trust. if she really loves that guy i mean why couldnt she forgive him & try to give him another chance? I mean ppl make a mistake and this mistake could be caused by temptation or seduction. well well well if she still finds out that the guy still keeps on cheating on her then i think its time to cut his u know where. :twisted: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sabaisabai Posted December 11, 2004 Report Share Posted December 11, 2004 FiLuRiNa said: smartass said: I think its not easy to find someone you can really trust these days. Too many temptations out there and people are weak and seduced too easily. well thats a good point. love is built on trust. u really need a lot of trust in a relationship. once one cheated on another, would he/she be forgiven for that? well the answer could be yes and no, depends on each person really. in case that u have forgiven a person who is cheating on you, u still need to rebuild ur trust for that person again. so i guess the other person really need to work hard on how to gain back his/her trust. if she really loves that guy i mean why couldnt she forgive him & try to give him another chance? I mean ppl make a mistake and this mistake could be caused by temptation or seduction. well well well if she still finds out that the guy still keeps on cheating on her then i think its time to cut his u know where. :twisted: Ah!!! dont make jokes about cutting you know what off... :shock: thats not funny!!... why do girls make jokes about...if he did that to me...ill cut his d*** off. or ill kick 'm in the nuts.. dont you know that if u just say it out loud...we man go like ouch!! :evil: change the subject please..... :roll: back to the topic .... well.. turn it around what about when a girl cheated on a guy. and she wants him back.... kaunitz 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sabaisabai Posted December 11, 2004 Report Share Posted December 11, 2004 dreams_eyes_1 said: same as my feeling lol but i think someday her heart will open..with the right guy.. i agree...stay positive...it will happen...just dont sit around waiting for it to happen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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