Gigabyte Posted January 2, 2005 Report Share Posted January 2, 2005 Why is it so hard to be honest and tell what you think? I'm trying to date this nice girl for a couple of weeks already; I've been very open and honest, and told her about my feelings. She always find good excuses to not meet me. Last time she couldn't meet me because she had to stay home to watch the house (her family is scared about burglars...) but later she admitted that she went dancing with her friends because her sister changed her plans so she was free to go. She called me, yes, from a very noisy place, and we couldn't even talk. So now it's my fault if we couldn't meet, because we couldn't understand each other on the phone. Well, maybe that was true but I find it so hard to believe... I really feel that she has no interests in me but why she cannot tell me? Is it that hard? Then I might give her an hand and make it clear that she have no interests in me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gigabyte Posted January 2, 2005 Author Report Share Posted January 2, 2005 I really feel that she has no interests in me but why she cannot tell me? Is it that hard? Then I might give her an hand and make it clear that she have no interests in me... Many people prefer to be rejected than to reject. That way they open up the marvelous possibilities of self-pity and blaming the other. And just think of the journal possibilities! And all the sympathy! :twisted: :twisted: Hey! Were you talking about me or her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rubkordaikrab Posted January 2, 2005 Report Share Posted January 2, 2005 Almost 100 % of the thai girls i met have this problem telling part of the truth all the time. You never get to know them 100 %. Its always somthing like the car did not belong to her it was her brothers, the land she said she had is her cousins. She stayed home to do something but she really went out the list can go on and on. I guess its a way of pleasing us or something i dont know. Its not big lies just small once all the time and if you dont care about it its kind of a nice feeling in la la land. But as soon as you scratch the surface everything can break down pretty quick. I am going to get lots of **** for this but i dont really care i know what i know and thats it. P.s no the girls were not all bar girls d.s Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
friends Posted January 2, 2005 Report Share Posted January 2, 2005 well...if she isn't interesting in u..she won't gave u called when she can went out... plz think about it.. if u can't understand via phone cuz noisy.. why not sms to each other?? :roll: i think it is hard to tell if i am not interesting a guy...i don't wanna hurt anyone and i also don't wanna give any hope ...but i will say that anyway.. lets he know by my act.. not my words anyway My 2nd uncle,take it easy kaa..time will prove eveything.. wait and lets see Cheer!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lipp Posted January 2, 2005 Report Share Posted January 2, 2005 Why is it so hard to be honest and tell what you think? For me it's not hard to be honest but sometime it's hard to tell ppl what I'm thinking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
namie_so_lovely Posted January 4, 2005 Report Share Posted January 4, 2005 " Be honest, be yourself" I try to follow this quote by being honest. Sometimes, my friends said I'm rude when I spoke my mind with somebody and I turned them down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gigabyte Posted January 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted January 4, 2005 Maybe you sill not find the right one yet... :roll: Your time will come kha... Jeab 8) Probably! :-) Thanks for the comments! :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gigabyte Posted January 12, 2005 Author Report Share Posted January 12, 2005 Hey! Latest update... :-) The 'nice lady' in question was actually dating another guy but didn't want to tell me. I guess that she wanted to keep her options open... She even asked me yesterday if I was still interested in going out with her! But the funny part was when she asked me to try to explain why her new date (also a TF) didn't change his profile to be "with partner"; she tought that after all they did together privately their relationship was serious enough. So I checked her own profile and she was still listed as "single"... So back to square 1... Why is it that hard to be honest? Was it that hard to just tell me that she was seeing someone else? Why can't she update her profile when she expects her partner to do it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harleyguy Posted January 12, 2005 Report Share Posted January 12, 2005 and....................did you go out with her ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gigabyte Posted January 12, 2005 Author Report Share Posted January 12, 2005 Nope... Didn't go out with her and I won't. I told her that I started to date someone else since our last chat, that I was not available, and I even updated my profile since... :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gigabyte Posted January 12, 2005 Author Report Share Posted January 12, 2005 There are no answers to your rhetoric, and I'm not sure why you care. It's only one girl, whom you met on TF. You can't really hang your hat on that can you? Plenty of girls don't lie and don't play games. I think you should forget about this girl, step out from behind your monitor, and mingle with some nice girls in person. Central Chidlom is a good place to start. There's lots of hotties with good jobs walking around on their lunch break. I probably should have followed my own advice, but I'm a sucker for drama with a twist of crazy. :twisted: Yeah.... I don't care anymore.... Anyway I'm with partner already... You really bring here an interesting point: Plenty of girls don't lie and don't play games. But plenty of girls do complain about guys telling lies and playing games with them. Fair? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Down2Earth Posted January 12, 2005 Report Share Posted January 12, 2005 I don't think it's hard but it's just that some people choose not to be honest for some reasons. Some choose to lie to make others feel good while others lie to make themselves feel good. So not being honest doesn't means it's hard to be. It depends on the point of not being honest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurence Posted January 12, 2005 Report Share Posted January 12, 2005 "I miss you very much, when can I see (ahem!) you again?" "errr...can we go to your place instead? my house is too messy (as my other girlfriend is staying over)" Lol, Ninni, Have we been chating over the phone lately ? Seriously, Honesty is the only way with anyone, when you'll be so close as to be living inside each other's skins though the second best option - by elimination - is dishonesty. Cheers, Laurence Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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