skurfer Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 so what are the steps? what do you have to do with the family to keep them happy also??? what do i absoultely NOT do?!?haha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XCHANELX Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 is she one of tf's members? :twisted: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i_love_som_tam Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 First step: Buy a water buffalo that's the furthest I have been, i backed out on that one :shock: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sabaisabai Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 so what are the steps? what do you have to do with the family to keep them happy also??? what do i absoultely NOT do?!?haha ...make sure she is a girl...<unless ur into chix with dix> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Punisher Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 Skurfer, your request assumes that everything is black or white. It's a bit like asking how long is a piece of string. Yes, there may be some general guidelines, but even for those there are going to be plenty of people who can give you examples of exceptions. I think the the best thing you can do is learn as much about your girlfriend and Thai culture as possible. Then approach your g/f directly and ask her about the subject and what her ideas are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigKus Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 what do i absoultely NOT do?!?haha ..:: Marry a thai girl.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sabaisabai Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 is she one of tf's members? :twisted: i think the buffalo is a TF member...not sure about the girl/guy tho...perfect wedding present...lifetime premium membership Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
venus Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 so what are the steps? what do you have to do with the family to keep them happy also??? what do i absoultely NOT do?!?haha make sure she is a "real woman." :roll: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anna25231980 Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 After you have real girl.....;P Did you know well about Thai culture? Do you know about dowey for thai girl? do you agree with that? I knew some farang and Thai lady that they broke up cos the farang disagree for thai culture!!! sad for her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 so what are the steps? first good step .. make sure she wants to marry U !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StevieJR Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 Make sure u live in a bungalow.........Then u only have ground floor windows to tragically FALL out of :shock: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zorin Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 U really want to get married? In Thailand? ... Really? OK ... than just get married ... since it is your decision to propese U rule the basket! ... Oh are u concerned about dowries? ... U are NOT Thai so rule them out completely. If Your Wife or/and here family were expecting a dowrie, sorry - simply tell them she should have married a Traditional Thai Guy ... willing to coff up the funds! Thais should be aware by now that we - westeners do not belive in buying love or looking for approvals dependent on financial gratification! If U were in India or Malaysia - the brides family would have to pay U a dowry to take their daughter away from them, thus relieving them of any future financial obligations from that god forsaken daughter *daughters are a burden in Thailand) So it is simple, If she embraces the fact of marrying a westener, she shopuld also embrace the western ideology ... thus - love conquers all and no dowry required ... If she still insists ... U've got the wrong bird - after ytou cash $$$ not what's in your Chest Champ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylver Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 This one of the many questions you have to figure out for yourself. The only advice I can give is to ignore cynics. Either they don't know what they are talking about or they tried and failed. Hardly makes them qualified to give advices. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dannyboy Posted October 27, 2006 Report Share Posted October 27, 2006 so what are the steps? ?what do you have to do with the family to keep them happy also?? what do i absoultely NOT do?!?haha 1. what are the steps....? go to your local travel agent in whatever corner of farangland you come from and book a two week trip to paradise....(Thailand) upon visit to paradise make sure a visit to Patpong/Nana/Soi Cowboy/Pattaya is on the itinerary, here you will procure said wife. "Barfine" said girl for at least a week and have a great time. When you have finished holiday make sure you leave new "fiance" at airport with tears/cash/email addy/mobile number.... (sorry i forgot, after 2 days of GF experiance propose your undying love to her and her family) make sure you find a Western Union or some kind of bank transfer in your home town and send your teerak at least 20,000b a month.(dont want to be cheap charlie) then after a period of time go back to paradise and marry girl/family. 2. what do you have to do with the family to keep them happy also ? give various amounts of money to family members for any non descript reasons,wether they work or not, DO NOT expect this money back. please remember all monies from a "farang" are a gift not a loan. make sure your new apartment/condo has more than one sleeping room, i should imagine you do not like to share your sleeping quarters with anyone apart from your teerak.this WILL be expected of you though when your distant thai relatives move in. give them unlimited, unquestioned rides in/on your car/motorbike.... (in fact give them the keys and let them use all the gas, it's easier in the long run, please believe me) 3.what do i absoultely NOT do? express any opion oppossed to your teerak or her family. turn down any requests for money.(remember farang =ATM) try to come inbetween teerak and family,this WILL NOT happen or be allowed. (remember you are at least number 6 in teerak's life. 1. children 2. family(immediate) 3.family(distant) 4.friends 5.food 6."farang" BF/husband if she has no children, congratulations....you are number 5. i hope this helps you and i hope you and your future wife have a long and happy life,and your children are healthy. take care, dannyboy......... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CiaranM Posted October 28, 2006 Report Share Posted October 28, 2006 Either they don't know what they are talking about or they tried and failed. Hardly makes them qualified to give advices. actually having tried and failed would make ppl very well qualified to offer advice !!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sylver Posted October 28, 2006 Report Share Posted October 28, 2006 Either they don't know what they are talking about or they tried and failed. Hardly makes them qualified to give advices. actually having tried and failed would make ppl very well qualified to offer advice !!! Not in my book. Most people don't really learn from their failures. They find "excuses" and "reasons" for it, they blame it on... whatever. When you fail, you know some stuff that don't work but you still have to figure out what *does work*. Cynics are merely saying "can't be done / doesn't exist / ain't real"....how is any of that whining gonna help someone who wants to do it? Just because cynics haven't worked it out doesn't mean it can't be worked out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hbkbkk Posted October 28, 2006 Report Share Posted October 28, 2006 so what are the steps? what do you have to do with the family to keep them happy also??? what do i absoultely NOT do?!?haha First you get an engagement ring, than a wedding ring, than suffering.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skurfer Posted October 28, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 28, 2006 is she one of tf's members? :twisted: hahah no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skurfer Posted October 28, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 28, 2006 First step: Buy a water buffalothat's the furthest I have been, i backed out on that one :shock: LOL nice... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skurfer Posted October 28, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 28, 2006 Skurfer, your request assumes that everything is black or white. It's a bit like asking how long is a piece of string.Yes, there may be some general guidelines, but even for those there are going to be plenty of people who can give you examples of exceptions. I think the the best thing you can do is learn as much about your girlfriend and Thai culture as possible. Then approach your g/f directly and ask her about the subject and what her ideas are. um...ya. the "learning about thai culture" would be why i made this post. what is thai marriage customs? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skurfer Posted October 28, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 28, 2006 After you have real girl.....;PDid you know well about Thai culture? Do you know about dowey for thai girl? do you agree with that? I knew some farang and Thai lady that they broke up cos the farang disagree for thai culture!!! sad for her no i dont know about thai marriage customs. which is why i posted this lol so please, indulge me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skurfer Posted October 28, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 28, 2006 U really want to get married? In Thailand? ... Really? OK ... than just get married ... since it is your decision to propese U rule the basket! ... Oh are u concerned about dowries? ... U are NOT Thai so rule them out completely.If Your Wife or/and here family were expecting a dowrie, sorry - simply tell them she should have married a Traditional Thai Guy ... willing to coff up the funds! Thais should be aware by now that we - westeners do not belive in buying love or looking for approvals dependent on financial gratification! If U were in India or Malaysia - the brides family would have to pay U a dowry to take their daughter away from them, thus relieving them of any future financial obligations from that god forsaken daughter *daughters are a burden in Thailand) So it is simple, If she embraces the fact of marrying a westener, she shopuld also embrace the western ideology ... thus - love conquers all and no dowry required ... If she still insists ... U've got the wrong bird - after ytou cash $$$ not what's in your Chest Champ! lol maybe i should find a malay in that case! HAHAH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skurfer Posted October 28, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 28, 2006 so what are the steps? ?what do you have to do with the family to keep them happy also?? what do i absoultely NOT do?!?haha 1. what are the steps....? go to your local travel agent in whatever corner of farangland you come from and book a two week trip to paradise....(Thailand) upon visit to paradise make sure a visit to Patpong/Nana/Soi Cowboy/Pattaya is on the itinerary, here you will procure said wife. "Barfine" said girl for at least a week and have a great time. When you have finished holiday make sure you leave new "fiance" at airport with tears/cash/email addy/mobile number.... (sorry i forgot, after 2 days of GF experiance propose your undying love to her and her family) make sure you find a Western Union or some kind of bank transfer in your home town and send your teerak at least 20,000b a month.(dont want to be cheap charlie) then after a period of time go back to paradise and marry girl/family. 2. what do you have to do with the family to keep them happy also ? give various amounts of money to family members for any non descript reasons,wether they work or not, DO NOT expect this money back. please remember all monies from a "farang" are a gift not a loan. make sure your new apartment/condo has more than one sleeping room, i should imagine you do not like to share your sleeping quarters with anyone apart from your teerak.this WILL be expected of you though when your distant thai relatives move in. give them unlimited, unquestioned rides in/on your car/motorbike.... (in fact give them the keys and let them use all the gas, it's easier in the long run, please believe me) 3.what do i absoultely NOT do? express any opion oppossed to your teerak or her family. turn down any requests for money.(remember farang =ATM) try to come inbetween teerak and family,this WILL NOT happen or be allowed. (remember you are at least number 6 in teerak's life. 1. children 2. family(immediate) 3.family(distant) 4.friends 5.food 6."farang" BF/husband if she has no children, congratulations....you are number 5. i hope this helps you and i hope you and your future wife have a long and happy life,and your children are healthy. take care, dannyboy......... yikes...cynical eh haha. i have a girlfriend, not from a bar or has ever required a barfine. met the family, actually pretty well off in the udon thani area. mom is a teacher, dad is the principle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skurfer Posted October 28, 2006 Author Report Share Posted October 28, 2006 Thais should be aware by now that we - westeners do not belive in buying love or looking for approvals dependent on financial gratification! almost missed this gem... great that you can speak for all westerners but when you do in future please understand the subject matter. That is to say, understand the principle of sin-sot and what it means as opposed to your own personal dealings with Thais asking you for cash payments. and for the record, yes i'm married, yes to a Thai, yes here in Thailand. When I asked her parents about sin-st her parents said, We don't expect anything, it's hard enough for your generation as it is. But shhhhhhh wouldn't want the world to hear good or positive stories from the Big Mango, or learn that, shock horror amazement some Thais are actually very nice people... now we are getting somewhere...and it appears someone is actually looking to help rather then make snide comments (meant in jest perhaps, but i'm not one to like being patronized ;-) so i assume the dowry is "sin-sot" did you speak to the father about that before the proposal? did you ask for his permission before you asked her too marry? when you asked for permission/blessing is that also the appropriate time to discuss the sin-sot??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Punisher Posted October 28, 2006 Report Share Posted October 28, 2006 Thais should be aware by now that we - westeners do not belive in buying love or looking for approvals dependent on financial gratification! almost missed this gem... great that you can speak for all westerners but when you do in future please understand the subject matter. That is to say, understand the principle of sin-sot and what it means as opposed to your own personal dealings with Thais asking you for cash payments. and for the record, yes i'm married, yes to a Thai, yes here in Thailand. When I asked her parents about sin-st her parents said, We don't expect anything, it's hard enough for your generation as it is. But shhhhhhh wouldn't want the world to hear good or positive stories from the Big Mango, or learn that, shock horror amazement some Thais are actually very nice people... now we are getting somewhere...and it appears someone is actually looking to help rather then make snide comments (meant in jest perhaps, but i'm not one to like being patronized ;-) so i assume the dowry is "sin-sot" did you speak to the father about that before the proposal? did you ask for his permission before you asked her too marry? when you asked for permission/blessing is that also the appropriate time to discuss the sin-sot??? Dowry is what the woman (or her family) pay the man. Sin-sot is in fact a "bride price". Correct me if I am wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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