public displays of affection

[chrispilok]

I'm not sure if this should be a relationship thread or a Thai Culture thread so I'll just dump it here under General...

Yesterday returning on the boat from Ko Samet I was treated to the spectacle of a farang guy, fondling, kissing, nuzzeling, nibbling, squeezing, hugging, stroking his Thai girlfriend. Couldn't keep his hands off her for a second. If he's not petting her hair he's biting her neck or something.

They were sitting in the front row of seats so it was hard to avoid seeing for the rest of us 40 or so people unless you craned your neck to 90 degrees. I slightly resented having to see it. Am I being uptight?

Also I believe its impolite in Thai culture. Maybe some Thais on here could correct me about that if I'm wrong.

Finally, to the women reading, how do you feel about public displays of affection? Is it all good? The more the better?

[Dr_Sassy]

I'm somewhat in the middle of old and new generation. I think it's kinda cute to see people holding hand, give hello/goodbye hug... etc. But I just feel weird to see people give passionate kisses in front of me.. makes me feel awkward.. like I'm the 3rd wheel (always wonder how they handle their breathe when it comes to kissing marathon in public)

I consider rubbing legs, grabbing bum, scratching back, changing saliva would be more appropriate actions to do at home (or if it's out of sight) Unless they are drunk, I think its forgivable :twisted:

[i_love_som_tam]

Unless they are drunk, I think its forgivable :twisted:

may i buy you a drink or 12? :twisted:

[VanillaVodka]

That did sound a bit too much.

It doesn't bother me seeing couple holding hands or giving each other occational hugs. But if you come close to kissing his/her neck or anything more passionate than that....please stop. It can really bother passer-by. Specially if you look way too young to be doing that.

For me.....say if you're in a dark dark club and nobody would mind your business then kissing passionately for a few seconds would be fine. But if it's a kissathon then it's hard for people not to take a notice.

So the best way is to keep it modest I think.

[Ammy]

When im in BKK, Im quite conservative in public. Holding hands, Kissing on cheeks and lips are alright to do for me. I guess im just older and have been known by more people than when i was younger. So just try my best to keep a low profile in public in case some people from work or my dads friends accidentally are close by.. :roll:

But when im in KL, I am always affectionate and a bit too much sometimes in public. Probably just because i think im a foreigner there and no one to care about what i am doing... Altho sometimes knowing that i might be in a risk to get my fingers cut there

I guess that farang probably has the similar attitude as mine when he is in aboard... not to give a sh*t and no respect to culture and what people think... Sad thing i know :?

[RoobLaw]

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Generally, it's not polite and considered disrespectful manners. Also, teachers and professors say this is not within acceptable riaproi standards, even in a more subtle degree.

However, in some classes, we've discussed the more progressive nature of the younger population as there are teenagers holding hands in MBK and Siam Center. These days different people have changing and different values.

[chrispilok]

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Not polite and disrespectful manners. Also, teachers and professors say this is not within acceptable riaproi standards, even in a more subtle degree.

What is ÃÒÃÂÒ· ? is that respect?

Well, we weren't in school so we should cut them some slack. Maybe they were on a honeymoon or something.

What was curious to me was that it was all the guy pawing and squeezing away. The girl didn't discourage him but sort of sat there. Made me wonder if she was embarassed but didn't want to hurt his feelings.

[RoobLaw]

What is ÃÒÃÂÒ· ?

Manners.

[maybe]

In England I wouldn't think twice about this kind of behaviour, but I wouldn't be so comfortable with it in Thailand because I know how most Thais view public signs of affection. Even many younger Thais wouldn't be happy seeing this, and even if they accept it most would judge the Thai girl on the receiving end of the farang man's attention.

I've seen a lot of Thai girls spurn their boyfriend's/gig's public advances and attempts to show affection in public. I heard one girl say "you can't do that, this is Thailand" after a guy tried to give her a passionate kiss on the lips goodbye.

[afook06]

Everyone, should be aware of another's country's cultures and try to go accordingly........It's just a matter of common courtesy and good manners when in public. Of course, who doesn't enjoy seeing a romantic couple that are in love, smiling, holding hands, and a simple hug or kiss, but anything more detailed than that should be left at home

[SiamHotel]

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[joz_sling]

really??

did u tape??? :twisted:

[ling_dtua_khaao]

I'm not sure if this should be a relationship thread or a Thai Culture thread so I'll just dump it here under General...

Yesterday returning on the boat from Ko Samet I was treated to the spectacle of a farang guy, fondling, kissing, nuzzeling, nibbling, squeezing, hugging, stroking his Thai girlfriend. Couldn't keep his hands off her for a second. If he's not petting her hair he's biting her neck or something.

They were sitting in the front row of seats so it was hard to avoid seeing for the rest of us 40 or so people unless you craned your neck to 90 degrees. I slightly resented having to see it. Am I being uptight?

Also I believe its impolite in Thai culture. Maybe some Thais on here could correct me about that if I'm wrong.

Finally, to the women reading, how do you feel about public displays of affection? Is it all good? The more the better?

I wouldn't want to see that anywhere, Thailand or not. It's over the top here (Canada) too, if it's as bad as you describe. I think here people wouldn't be offended so much as just being turned off by such a public display. It's something we expect horny teenagers to do, or drunks - and not something we really want to watch.

--Ling

[anenglishman]

Seems that what u witnessed was less a display of public affection, more a display of public ownership.

[Angel_Master]

I'm not sure if this should be a relationship thread or a Thai Culture thread so I'll just dump it here under General...

Yesterday returning on the boat from Ko Samet I was treated to the spectacle of a farang guy, fondling, kissing, nuzzeling, nibbling, squeezing, hugging, stroking his Thai girlfriend. Couldn't keep his hands off her for a second. If he's not petting her hair he's biting her neck or something.

They were sitting in the front row of seats so it was hard to avoid seeing for the rest of us 40 or so people unless you craned your neck to 90 degrees. I slightly resented having to see it. Am I being uptight?

Also I believe its impolite in Thai culture. Maybe some Thais on here could correct me about that if I'm wrong.

Finally, to the women reading, how do you feel about public displays of affection? Is it all good? The more the better?

I wouldn't want to see that anywhere, Thailand or not. It's over the top here (Canada) too, if it's as bad as you describe. I think here people wouldn't be offended so much as just being turned off by such a public display. It's something we expect horny teenagers to do, or drunks - and not something we really want to watch.

--Ling

Oh, come on you up tight people! I bet she was hot! (and if he wasn't bad to look at either) I don't mind a bit unless it was making her uncomfortable. I hope for them that it lasts, but probably not. Such fires usually burn out quickly.

Now having said that. It is a good chance though that she was a bar girl and used to farangs treating her that way because most nice thai girls would feel quite uncomfortable and would not allow it.

Some couples look good together I suppose and some don't.

[The Punisher]

I try not to **** in public out of consideration to others.

[CiaranM]

I try not to f*ck in public out of consideration to others.

yeah and it upsets the other sheep that u didn't pick !!!

[The Punisher]

I try not to f*ck in public out of consideration to others.

yeah and it upsets the other sheep that u didn't pick !!!

Yeah, especially since it means that now they could end up with you

[CiaranM]

I try not to f*ck in public out of consideration to others.

yeah and it upsets the other sheep that u didn't pick !!!

Yeah, especially since it means that now they could end up with you

bloody hell it's bad enough having to shag a good looking sheep without having to f**k ur rejects !!!

ehhhhh ... so Maurice told me !!!

[Sukhumvit_Farang]

I suppose it's a matter of consideration for others. A few days ago I saw a farang couple on the Skytrain sucking each other's faces and groping and fondling each other. It just somehow seemed totally out of place to me. I can only imagine what the Thai passengers were thinking. Actually there was one young Thai guy watching them as if he were watching a porno movie - which is almost what it looked like. There is a time and a place for everything - and this was not the time and place for what they were doing. I really felt like telling them to "get a room", as the saying goes.

One easy way to tell if one's behavior is appropriate in any situation is to look around and see how other people are behaving. If nobody else is having sex in public, then you probably shouldn't either - no matter how open-minded you might be. And it is always better to err on the side of caution.

[Angel_Master]

I suppose it's a matter of consideration for others. A few days ago I saw a farang couple on the Skytrain sucking each other's faces and groping and fondling each other. It just somehow seemed totally out of place to me. I can only imagine what the Thai passengers were thinking. Actually there was one young Thai guy watching them as if he were watching a porno movie - which is almost what it looked like. There is a time and a place for everything - and this was not the time and place for what they were doing. I really felt like telling them to "get a room", as the saying goes.

aptly described! i've witnessed the same a number of times. invariably between what appears to be a "working girl" and some young good looking bloke passing through on a short holiday. Now I have to say that this is a little different than the last description.. when I've seen this I have thought it was rather pathetic and imposing on others. feel like i lost my self respect to be one of them.. despite what i said earlier i do appreciate and prefer thai values on this... so i guess most of us agree that they should be upheld.

[GoldMember]

I suppose it's a matter of consideration for others. A few days ago I saw a farang couple on the Skytrain sucking each other's faces and groping and fondling each other. It just somehow seemed totally out of place to me. I can only imagine what the Thai passengers were thinking. Actually there was one young Thai guy watching them as if he were watching a porno movie - which is almost what it looked like. There is a time and a place for everything - and this was not the time and place for what they were doing. I really felt like telling them to "get a room", as the saying goes.

aptly described! i've witnessed the same a number of times. invariably between what appears to be a "working girl" and some young good looking bloke passing through on a short holiday. Now I have to say that this is a little different than the last description.. when I've seen this I have thought it was rather pathetic and imposing on others. feel like i lost my self respect to be one of them.. despite what i said earlier i do appreciate and prefer thai values on this... so i guess most of us agree that they should be upheld.

Point is they couldnt care less about cultural values.Doubt it ever enters their minds.

The ongoing Farangisation of Thailand is a double edged sword.Get the cash-get the cultural buggage that comes with it.