Indman Posted March 9, 2004 Report Share Posted March 9, 2004 I just read one of my friend's diaries and he does have a bit of a gripe at some testominals and a fear of being labelled as "nice & decent". Sorry its rather long and he does go on for quite a bit but it makes interesting reading and see what you all think of it. If you want to read the whole thing (yes there is more!!!) follow this link http://members.optushome.com.au/deadpan-ent/rants/arc13.htm 20th November, 2003 Anyway, another trend I noticed was the kinda testimonials that go "Aww...wanna try your luck in getting this meritorious genteel prince charming here?" and "He's such a nice guy! Snap this guy up while you can, girls!" Where can you find such testimonials? On profiles of single guys. And you know what? They'll always be single. I think that if someone write such a testimonial on your profile, you're immediately cursed and branded as a Nice & Decent guy. Of course, if someone was to write such a nice & decent testimonial for you, chances are you deserved it for being such a shmuck. And yes, I got a similar testimonial too, in the form of "Andrew's such a gentleman.. he's reserved but extremely witty! What are you girls waiting for?!! He's a hottie up for grabs! haha" And with that one testimonial, I'm now officially doomed to remain single for the rest of my existence. I'm not sure where I stand in this situation. It's not simple and black & white as per the assholes discussed above. I mean, I like nice people. They're... nice. By definition that means they're not malicious or vile or discourteous or anything... so therefore it's good to have lots of nice people in the world. The world might be a better place if it was populated entirely by nice people... but, really... nice people are usually pretty boring too. And boring people are... well... boring. I mean, really... if they were interesting and fun people then they would probably be attached to begin with, and their female friends wouldn't feel the need to have to hype them up on dumb internet services like Friendster. Which is another thing that bothers me... like in my case... if I really am such a "hottie up for grabs", then why is that person writing that on Friendster instead of following her own advice? Likewise, if all the "Nice & Decent" people really are that wonderful, then why are their single female friends declaring them as eligible bachelors instead of considering them as eligible bachelors? What? They're good enough for some complete stranger from the internet, but not good enough for you? Where is the logic in that? And don't give the "we're good friends and I don't want to ruin the friendship" excuse... when guys say it it's usually a fear of rejection or they're in the market for someone better looking, and when girls say it, it's probably because they're in the market for someone better. I think it's a rarity when someone says that phrase and genuinely means it. It's pure hypocrisy, really. It's like pimping out dirty ho's and proclaiming them as the **** of the century when you wouldn't touch them yourself because you know how crudded up they are. It's pretty gross, and I think in many ways it's also somewhat offensive to the Nice & Decent guy in question. It's like attached people complaining to their single friends about their relationship issues and such, and then saying something downright offensive like "You know, I envy you sometimes... being single gives you so much freedom!" That is such a f****** harsh insult. If they really *did* envy the single life, they'd just f****** dump their partner and lead the single life, instead of happily complaining about the "issues" and "problems" of being in a relationship and rubbing it into someone's face when they don't have anybody in their lives and are disallowed the opportunity to have relationship issues. I think I've totally babbled and lost the point again. Anyway, I think the next time you catch yourself writing a testimonial for a friend that's synonymous to "He's such a great catch!", please think twice about it and realize that despite your good intentions, you might be indirectly dissing your friend. Write boring things like "He's a nice guy", or "He's a pretty decent guy" if you want, but it'll still be less damaging to his ego than something that implies "He's good enough to be my *friend*, but not good enough to be my *boyfriend*. But you should hit on him anyway... because your standards might be lower than mine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bobbyboy112003 Posted March 9, 2004 Report Share Posted March 9, 2004 Hmmm, I'm gonna have to get back to this one. bobby Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeremy Posted March 9, 2004 Report Share Posted March 9, 2004 Testimonials are just opinions..........they don't mean anything..........just someone's opinion.....dosn't mean you have to think the same as somebody else........as Onlynx said.....you don't have to accept them........ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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