SweetieBabie Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 - Deal Breakers - Everybody is different, many people are able to tolerate and are able to forgive the flaw in relationships more than the others. Sometimes you have to say enough IS enough. Where is your limitation? or do you think you can change a person and that you can help him or her to be a better person? What do you think are relationship deal breakers? - Physical Abuse = Either your boyfriend or your girlfriend hit you and hurt you, assult you or injure bodily harming you psychically. A ***** slap counts. this also include domestic violent and rape. - Mental Abuse = To you and people around you. everything is your fault, you are always wrong, what you think and your feelings are somehow insignificant. He/she goes from hot or cold ,walking on eggshells. You are 'afraid' of your partner. - Infidelity = Both emotionally and sexually infidelity. Cheating boyfriend or girlfriend/ unfaithfulness spouses. adultery, extra marital affairs. secret lovers. even to emotionally involved in online relationships. - Drugs & Alcohol Abuse = Alcoholism, drugs addicted. They only tell that they love you when they are intoxicated. - Financially Abuse = Stealing, financially undependable/ financially depending, shopaholic, Broke, addicted to gambling, jobless ,high in debt. Etc. ??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beej Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 You forgot Boredom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alan675 Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 All of the above .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digitalcat Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 yes pretty much any of those. the last one constitutes lying Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Admin_2 Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 Top of the list...I'd have to go with physical abuse...unless you're into that sort of thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digitalcat Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 Admin said: Top of the list...I'd have to go with physical abuse...unless you're into that sort of thing. slaps admin around, you know you like rough! lollol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr_Sassy Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 * Physical Abuse would do...a big no no... but raping? that sounds hot LOL * Mental Abuse .. is not a big deal.. we are, already, mentally ill * Infidelity (drunk/sober) .. would be my 2nd choice * Alcohol Abuse .. who am I to say? * Financially Abuse.. i can always make money.. this F abuse can be solved easily.. or if it can't.. just find a sugardada Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alan675 Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 Admin said: Top of the list...I'd have to go with physical abuse...unless you're into that sort of thing. YEAH BABY! :twisted: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 My last relationship involved 2 of those... yep... nothing to do but get out. Trouble is, these things usually creep up incrementally and happen when you've already committed your loyalty and heart, so it can be very difficult when you're in the middle of it to see objectively what to do. Either way, it is very damaging stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digitalcat Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 Dr_Sassy said: * Physical Abuse would do...a big no no... but raping? that sounds hot LOL one of my x's had a rape fantasy. i couldn't do it was to creepy for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crustyjuggler Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 I'm just sitting tight for Peemark Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faycyber Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 SweetieBabie said: - Deal Breakers -Everybody is different, many people are able to tolerate and are able to forgive the flaw in relationships more than the others. Sometimes you have to say enough IS enough. Where is your limitation? or do you think you can change a person and that you can help him or her to be a better person? What do you think are relationship deal breakers? the last one is ok for me .....but others.... I think I just say good bye.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 si6 said: I'm just sitting tight for Peemark :?: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beej Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 Admin said: Top of the list...I'd have to go with physical abuse...unless you're into that sort of thing. Marc is, he likes Chairs so I'm told Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beej Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 ..... and wheres the beer option? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 beej said: Admin said: Top of the list...I'd have to go with physical abuse...unless you're into that sort of thing. Marc is, he likes Chairs so I'm told can laugh about it now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
digitalcat Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 PeeMarc said: beej said: Admin said: Top of the list...I'd have to go with physical abuse...unless you're into that sort of thing. Marc is, he likes Chairs so I'm told can laugh about it now. throws a chair at marc... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetieBabie Posted July 25, 2009 Author Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 I thank you to whoever gave that 1 vote to the tranny trick option :evil: NOT ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amarone Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 digitalcat said: Dr_Sassy said: * Physical Abuse would do...a big no no... but raping? that sounds hot LOL one of my x's had a rape fantasy. i couldn't do it was to creepy for me. Been there too,I have met women with that fantasy I dont think its that uncommon I would say all of the above is a reason to bail out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 CAN SOMEONE ***P L E A S E*** FIX THIS PROBLEM... "no post exist for this forum" I heard on forums 3 weeks ago that it is fixed. No... not fixed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LakeGeneve Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 beej said: You forgot Boredom. Emotional abuse would be perhaps more common that all of the others in nearly all relationships and also often much more sublte. All would be a deal breaker to a large extent but some lessor breaches can potentially be forgiven depending on the context, the intent of the breach and how much love exists between both. Everyone makes mistakes. digitalcat said: Dr_Sassy said: * Physical Abuse would do...a big no no... but raping? that sounds hot LOL one of my x's had a rape fantasy. i couldn't do it was to creepy for me. A partner even joking about such a fantasy would send big alarm bells ringing for me given all it suggests. I would not characterise it in the same catagory as S&M fantasies. I would be out the door without hesitation except for a query about where such a desire stems from and the suggestion that she seek pyschological help. There is baggage and then THERE IS BAGGAGE. si6 said: I'm just sitting tight for Peemark Sounds like a belated slogan for a protect Marc campaign! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeeMarc Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 Because of the Thai reluctance to confront issues or communicate in a direct clear manner, one of the most common problems I see is 'passive/aggressive' behavior. In its extreme this can lead to mental abuse (as above). I think every argument i ever had with my ex (including the insane violence and anger from her as well) had NOTHING to do with the subject of the argument at the time. Things continue to lie and fester under the surface and just don't get talked about or confronted..(Thai Way) then one day.. BANG!....out of nowhere, over something seemingly so trivial, world war 3 erupts for no reason. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pandorea Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 SweetieBabie said: - Deal Breakers -Everybody is different, many people are able to tolerate and are able to forgive the flaw in relationships more than the others. Sometimes you have to say enough IS enough. Where is your limitation? or do you think you can change a person and that you can help him or her to be a better person? What do you think are relationship deal breakers? - Physical Abuse = Either your boyfriend or your girlfriend hit you and hurt you, assult you or injure bodily harming you psychically. A b*tch slap counts. this also include domestic violent and rape. - Mental Abuse = To you and people around you. everything is your fault, you are always wrong, what you think and your feelings are somehow insignificant. He/she goes from hot or cold ,walking on eggshells. You are 'afraid' of your partner. - Infidelity = Both emotionally and sexually infidelity. Cheating boyfriend or girlfriend/ unfaithfulness spouses. adultery, extra marital affairs. secret lovers. even to emotionally involved in online relationships. - Drugs & Alcohol Abuse = Alcoholism, drugs addicted. They only tell that they love you when they are intoxicated. - Financially Abuse = financially undependable/ financially depending, shopaholic, Broke, addicted to gambling, jobless ,high in debt. Etc. ??? I go for Alcohol/drugs abuse as it will lead to everything you mention, Tonia. Helping a parther with alcohol /drugs problem is a life time project. You have to take one step at a time and the best way is get professional helps. You can't do that alone, trust me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hugo Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 PeeMarc said: CAN SOMEONE ***P L E A S E*** FIX THIS PROBLEM..."no post exist for this forum" I heard on forums 3 weeks ago that it is fixed. No... not fixed. http://www.thailandfriends.com/index.php?name=DB_phpBB2&file=viewtopic&t=15278 :roll: :? :drunk: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stramash Posted July 25, 2009 Report Share Posted July 25, 2009 SweetieBabie said: - Deal Breakers -Everybody is different, many people are able to tolerate and are able to forgive the flaw in relationships more than the others. Sometimes you have to say enough IS enough. Where is your limitation? or do you think you can change a person and that you can help him or her to be a better person? What do you think are relationship deal breakers? - Physical Abuse = Either your boyfriend or your girlfriend hit you and hurt you, assult you or injure bodily harming you psychically. A b*tch slap counts. this also include domestic violent and rape. - Mental Abuse = To you and people around you. everything is your fault, you are always wrong, what you think and your feelings are somehow insignificant. He/she goes from hot or cold ,walking on eggshells. You are 'afraid' of your partner. - Infidelity = Both emotionally and sexually infidelity. Cheating boyfriend or girlfriend/ unfaithfulness spouses. adultery, extra marital affairs. secret lovers. even to emotionally involved in online relationships. - Drugs & Alcohol Abuse = Alcoholism, drugs addicted. They only tell that they love you when they are intoxicated. - Financially Abuse = financially undependable/ financially depending, shopaholic, Broke, addicted to gambling, jobless ,high in debt. Etc. ??? all depends on the other person, but from a professional perspective, I would list them in the order you actually have them Tonia; Physical abuse Mental abuse Infidelity drugs/alcohol Financial abuse. Although I have placed financial abuse last, I have only done that to fit your definition, which to be honest is actually wrong. Although what you have described can be symptoms of financial abuse, the proper definition actually refers to such things as taking money from your bank account or purse, defrauding you etc, and as such is a huge breach of trust and I would place it after infidelity in that case. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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